So, I used to wear rings all the time. Then I had a guy friend tell me that single girls shouldn’t wear rings because guys aren’t smart enough to figure out what finger it is on and if they are married or not. After that day, out of fear, I stopped wearing rings. I had always worn a purity ring on my ring finger and I took it off. You see, I didn’t want any of the single guys thinking I was married because I was wearing a purity ring. I figured that it was just a ring and I still had my purity, so it is okay to just take it off for the sake of helping out the single guys.
I still love rings and found an old one the other day and decided to wear it. After work and on my way to a meeting I switched the ring to my wedding finger (don’t worry there were no single guys around). The minute that I put it on my ring finger I felt instantly more mature.
What is with that me feeling more mature? Like somehow I can’t be mature and complete without being married. Married=maturity. For some reason, I have bought into the lie that you can’t be fully mature or complete without being married.
Paul says it best in 1 Corinthians 7 when he talks to us single folks and tells us that it is better to be single because you are only concerned with the things of the Lord and not with pleasing your spouse. He says this to the singles in 7:35 “I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.” I love that, undivided devotion to the Lord. That ring was a distraction and I quickly took it off. My prayer is that in this time of singleness (whether I just am single for this week or the rest of my life) that God would help me to have undivided devotion to the Lord.
Jesus didn’t come to teach and grow only married people, he came to teach and grow people who loved him and His father and desired to do their will. This is not just for certain people. It is for all of us, even those of us without rings. I think sometimes in our churches we feel left behind as unmarried people, we feel like we don’t measure up or are missing out on something; we don’t always know what that something is, but it causes us a lot of pain and we fill in the blanks with all sorts of things: companionship, friendship, sex, kids, cuddle time, kisses, etc.
I guess my encouragement tonight is that Jesus didn’t come only for the married people (I mean after all HE was single), Jesus came for all of us and I, as a single person, love that the gospel is the same for my married friends that it is for me. I love Deuteronomy 4:29 “But from there you will seek the Lord your God and you will find him, if you search after him with all your heart and with all your soul.” That my friends should be our desire regardless of where we are in life. Seek God, Seek His Kingdom, Search after God with all your Heart. That is where completeness and maturity comes from, seeking our Savior, not wearing a wedding ring.